Barbara Carrellas is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century as well as Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra® — a philosophy, an international community, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice—and the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program, a comprehensive training program in the practice and application of conscious sexuality.

Barbara’s been at the forefront of making Tantra accessible to everyone for decades. Her explorations into the world of Tantra were originally motivated by experiencing the effects of the AIDS crisis on her friends and loved ones in the 1980s. She wanted to find a way to teach those she loved how to experience sublime sexual pleasure when conventional sex was no longer a safe option. Little did she know she had embarked on what would become her life path. “We had lives to save and hearts to heal.”

In this discussion we talk about many things, including what her own first experiences with energy orgasms were like, and how sacred sexuality could contribute to healing during this time of reckoning in our culture of sexual harassment and abuse.

In her book, Urban Tantra, Barbara makes the practices of Tantra accessible to those fully steeped in the Western, urban, 3-D mindset, as well as to those who are not always included in these teachings, such as those within the LGBTQ community. She teaches that anyone–no matter what your sexual preference, age, cultural heritage, size, gender identification, or other differentiators–can experience the ecstatic states that Tantra has to offer, and that we can learn these skills all on our own within the confines of our everyday lives.

Discussed in this episode:

Barbara’s understanding of the definition of Tantra, as well as her own spin on it, which has become Urban Tantra.

What is new in the latest edition of her book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century

How both male and female genitalia actually start out in the same form developmentally and that we are all dealing with the same basic tissue building blocks.

How removing rigid gender identification and adopting what she calls “intentional naivete” can lead to unexpected forms of expansion.
Louise Hay – “The Totality of Possibilities

How Breath and Energy Orgasms shattered her ceiling of limitation and what that first experience of an energy orgasm was like.

How Barbara decided to explore the world of Tantra to help her gay male friends during the AIDS crisis experience ecstatic yet “physically 100% safer sex” and to bring sex into a sacred and emotionally healing space as the world was condemning the gay community for “having brought the wrath of AIDS upon themselves.”

Her early work with Annie Sprinkle and Joseph Kramer, Ph.D.

How different methods resonate with different people and how she teaches many different exercises and techniques to try to give everyone some kind of experience.

How her focus has shifted lately to her Urban Tantra Professional Training Program and her hope that this work will help envision what lies beyond this time of reckoning surrounding sexual harrassment and abuse.

How age doesn’t have to mean the end of sexual expansion and enjoyment at all!


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